( A female assistant has just asked ” Do men think ? ” , she will be dealt with later under the guise of a training session . )
This page is a mixture of ideas from many sources combined with the Spankoz egalitarian philosophy and applies equally to heterosexual and same sex spanking .
As with most things , men and women think differently about spanking ( see Men are from Mars , Women are from Venus ) . Generally this means a more active and physical approach . They may also , in earlier years , have searched the school library for books ( especially dictionaries ) , sought out movies and TV programs with spanking references and discretely discussed the subject while trying not to show their interest .
As with other intimate activities , men can enjoy a number of partners , where women tend to have only a few or one at a time . Divorcing sex and spanking is a way to reduce the difference in attitude .
Men generally prefer to ” get on with it ” when spanking , women like to talk first .
Men like control and the hunter role , pursuing their quarry until the spanking etc activity takes place . Spanking can be the precursor to sexual activity .
There are four ways that men participate in physical spanking and role playing ( cyber etc. spanking is not discussed here , but can also be enjoyable ) :
- DOMINANT ROLE
- SUBMISSIVE ROLE
- ” SWITCH ” ROLE ( both of the above )
- WATCHING ( non participatory ) ROLE
” It makes a man feel good . “
( from MANDINGO )
This the classic male role in spanking , an image of the family disciplinarian . It demonstrates a power over one’s domain , of being the boss and in control . There can be a great satisfaction in having a woman , bare bottomed , across your lap and spanking her until you decide that she has had enough .
( See : Paula Meadows ( Lynn Paula Russell ) and The Janus Collection )
The sight of a bottom is enough to turn on the spanking urge in male predisposed to spanking.
Literally this is the flip side of the Dominant Role . Submission takes many forms , but , in this context it is only a physical one , i.e. to receive a spanking . Aside from the pain aspect , it is the easiest actively involved role . All you have to do is stay in position and leave the rest to the person doing the spanking . Additional forms of submission may be involved .
The mere sight of potential spankers , implements or just a lap can fire the male urge to be spanked :
Spankings may also have a disciplinary aspect and many men ( and women ) like to keep these separate from other types of spanking . These serve to relieve tension and ” clear the air ” . Being reminded of being spanked in this way can be a turn off for some men , but some like it !
” SWITCH ” ROLE
Switching roles is a way a lot of men ( and women ) release both dominant and submissive desires during the same spanking session . Men tend to be able to quickly change roles , some women have difficulty doing this and prefer to have a later session in the reverse role . Regardless of the sex of the person being spanked , switching removes most of the natural guilt caused by inflicting pain on another person . This is EGALITARIANISM .
” I like to watch ”
( from a Guinness advertising campaign )
Many men have no wish to actively participate in spanking for a variety of reasons , such as family or community reaction or they may simply like to watch , read or talk about spanking . Most purchasers of SPANKING VIDEOS are men . This is the largest group in the spanking community .