Crying And Adult Spanking


Most children cry when they are spanked and most adults do not cry. Why is this so? Well, in the case of a child most ” serious ” ( i.e. something more than a few slaps ) spankings are for punishment and most spankers do not regard a spanking as adequate unless the child cries. This expectation of crying as the result of being spanked is generally carried forward into adulthood. Feelings of closeness and intimacy may come from spanking, particularly in otherwise distant relationships.

In the case of adults there are several types of spanking other than those for punishment ( see TYPES OF ADULT SPANKINGS  ) . Generally there is some form of  CONSENT  given for the spanking and participants may enjoy the experience. By the time of adulthood, most people have dealt with both physical and emotional pain. Generally this experience raises pain thresholds. ( See  SPANKING PAIN. ) Sexual maturity may bring about a feeling of pleasure from having pain in certain areas of the body, the buttocks being the generally favoured erogenous area for painful sensations.


” The amygdala  is the area of the brain concerned with emotion, anterior cingulate ( which controls attention ) and areas dealing with memory could be responsible for individual reactions to spanking. For most people spanking is an emotive word, it evokes an emotive response when mentioned, eg a laugh or a smile, this response may also be negative. When an adult is asked about a childhood spanking experience they may remember details such as where, when and how it happened, but can not say why it happened. It is not selective memory, it is the emotion of the event blanking out some things and highlighting others.

See also : Hormones Affecting Spanking.

There is a phenomenon which we shall call a ” spanking high ” which is reached when limits are reached and exceeded, ( Ever wonder why those last ” unbearable ” smacks were the best ). It has to do with the operation of the amygdala and of endorphins released into the brain and we suspect, one of the reasons why tolerance levels increase and we can feel elated after a spanking. This pushing of limits can be one of the ” turn ons ” of spanking and the giver can also receive the same sort of charge………….. ( continued ) ”

…………… From a highly authoritative source, our FAQ  Page!

Crying behaviour in adults varies between cultures and with gender. Generally adults learn not to show strong emotions ( particularly in public ) in western societies.

All of these factors tend to work against crying from all but the most painful spankings for men. Women are a bit more ” lucky ” in this respect and can, quite often, cry at will. For some women crying as the result of a relatively mild spanking brings about a tremendous emotional, even cathartic, release.

On the other hand, men and ” unlucky ” women may have to work at crying when being spanked. Being relaxed and concentrating on the spanking when it is taking place may help to produce tears. Another strategy is to imagine a real life reason for the spanking or re-enacting a past spanking. Moderate scolding may help. Someone already crying for some other reason, even from the fumes of an onion etc., may continue to cry when spanked. The spanker may be told to continue until the recipient is in tears, but this may take a long time and other factors, such as tissue damage may intervene. Also, the body defends itself by progressively blocking pain. The longer the spanking, the lesser the effect of each blow. Varying the rhythm and / or the implement used may produce tears, especially when a crescendo of blows is used to flood the recipient with painful sensations, one on top of the other. Unfortunately, this situation may lead to a test of wills and the spankee may consciously or unconsciously struggle not to cry.

The emotional impact of a spanking may be increased by varying the AMBIANCE  of a spanking. Emotional release during spanking may occur without tears, but in most cases, the release is only partial. The difference may be likened to an orgasm being compared with a ” screaming orgasm “. Many recipients need emotional release to be completely satisfied after a spanking.

” Crying is a typical human expression of emotion. Surprisingly, until now, little scientific attention has been devoted to this phenomemenon. Many textbooks on emotion fail to pay attention to it, and in scientific journals there are hardly any contributions focusing on this behavior. In contrast, there is much interest from the lay public, allowing psuedo-scientists to formulate theories that have little or no scientific basis. Is there any evidence in support of statements that crying is healthy or that not crying may result in toxification? How do people react to the crying of others? Is crying important for the diagnosis of depression, and if so, how? This books fills the gap in the scientific literature. Crying will be discussed from several perspectives and specific attention will be given to methodological issues and assessment. Each chapter provides a review and a summary of the relevant scientific literature. ”

“… crying will be discussed from several perspectives and specific attention is given to methodological issues and assessment ”



  1. When the relationship between spankee and spanker is good and there is emotional attachment, the tears seem to flow easier.

    At least that is how it works for me. I love to cry during a spanking. Getting spanked to tears. The sensation is overwhelming.

  2. Problem, I live in Toronto area and at the time I don’t have anyone to give me what I need most …a good spanking to have a good cry.

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