How To Find A Girlfriend For Spanking

Finding spanking prospecting means taking a systematic approach to finding spanking partners.

(If you have not already done so , read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray.)

For success in this field it is most important to develop a POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE towards spanking and the more you know about it the easier it is to introduce it to others. Be as natural as you can be in your approach , remember that SPANKING IS FUN and that it has a lot of positive things associated with it. (Why not make your own list ?).

There are three main ways to find your partner (this is a spanking partner that you are seeking , not necessarily a partner for life). This advice is intended for both men and women (who , by the way , we believe should be more active in the search for spanking partners).

  • You can try personal contact , introduce the subject into conversation , if you do this light-heartedly you can always retreat.

The first objective is to get a meaningful conversation started , everyone likes to talk about themselves , their work , ambitions etc. Become a good listener. Tell a spanking story or a joke and see who laughs. It is a bit like fishing , isn’t it ? Why not make a list of potential partners ?

Do not write off prospects because of appearance , this seems not to be a major factor , although anyone who dresses to show off their buttocks or moves or holds themselves in a way to draw attention to their bottom should be towards the top of your prospect list.


Do not be put off by an initial hostile attitude , quite often this is just a defence to be overcome. On the other hand , people may be transfixed by the sight of a spanking , keep your eyes and ears open !


  • Take likely prospects to a movie with a spanking scene or better still rent a video. (See spanking in movies and television.)


A light smack on the bottom at the right time can do wonders. Many ” sound ” spankings have started out this way the recipient making no attempt to move away. If it goes wrong , we take no responsibility if you end up getting a free ride in a police car ! This method works well for both men and women. (A recent example of this approach working is on the SpankingLife page. Failures also happen , today a 25 year old lady ran into the back of a car , she had the necessary element of contrition in her attitude and it was only a few minutes from home , but if your mind is on other worldly matters – nothing will happen.)


Another conversation starter is to have a piece ofspanking art on subtle display or allow a spanking magazine , implement etc to be ” found “.



(If you are a man who wants to be spanked , it is best to hold off until you have found a partner and then gently introduce the subject. Try using the ” payback ” approach.)

Always keep an open mind about spanking possibilities – Either giving or receiving .

  • You can advertise or answer personal advertisements . The most important things are honesty in saying what you are looking for (this includes discussing the method and level of spanking play). Look after your safety , particularly on the first meeting. If you are serious rent a post office box. Use your clothing as well.

The old birthday spanking ploy may work. Ladies Days at the races can be fruitful. Attending spanking social functions is another avenue. There are also the conventional methods of flowers and chocolates to have your intended see things your way. (These work well on Anniversaries , Birthdays and Valentines Day , Mother’s Day (or as an aid to becoming a mom). There is also Holy Innocents Day for the more religious.) Should these not work try a moderate amount of alcohol (Remember the Shakespearian warning ” Wine provoketh the desire but lessons the performance. “)

Finally , are you in shape ? A nice firm body , especially buttocks attracts interest.