” Maybe it’s just me but I believe we’re gonna have to get medieval on your buttocks . ”
Male to female spanking is the most popular sex ” mix ” in spanking . It can be just a spanking , a prelude to sexual activity or used as discipline ( see Spencer Plan ) . Spanking is an interesting extension of the ” Battle of the Sexes ” . The generally superior size and strength of men leads itself to this ” mix ” , it is a classical demonstration of power and of being in control .
Newcomers to adult spanking sometimes have difficulty in understanding that the women being spanked often want to be spanked , even more than a man’s wish to do it . This is not abuse , so long as informed consent has been given . The spankee is no less a person for being spanked .
Spanking should be another channel of communication between spanking partners . Generally , it should be fun for the participants .
” Relationships develop on an unconscious level . Looks are superficial . We’re attracted to people who mirror our internal world . “
” We’re unconsciously attracted to people who remind us of significant figures from our early lives , including father figures or someone with talent – a huge aphrodisiac . ”
……… Brett Kahr ( psychotherapist )
The old saying of ” Nothing ventured , nothing gained . ” also applies to spanking . There is nothing wrong with bringing the subject up , obliquely if you like ( ” You should have your bottom smacked for that ! ” etc . ) or more directly with a smack or two . ( See SPANKING PROSPECTING . ) Spanking is a great way to get passion into a relationship and varying the AMBIANCE of the occasion will keep it there .
Yes, spanking can be sexy, and a majority of women have fantasies about being spanked.
Most men, too, find spanking a woman to be a strong sexual turn-on.
But sexual spanking is not the same as the punishment spanking we may have experienced as children.
For a woman, the turn-on is not so much in the sensation of pain as it is in the feeling of helpless submission and vulnerability of being bent over her partner’s lap, the attention being paid to her behind (a primary erotic zone), the feeling of a man’s hand warming her buttocks, and the anticipation of sexual pleasures to come.
For a man, the arousing aspect of spanking is the feeling of control and power over his helpless lover, and the excitement of playing with her attractive bottom, turning it pink and putting her in the mood for some hot, passionate sex.
To master the art of erotic spanking, it is important to understand the following six principles:
- The bottom is a prime erogenous zone; however, unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation — like in spanking — to trigger them;
- The physiological process of sexual arousal demands that before orgasm can occur, blood must be collected and kept in the genitals and nearby areas. Spanking creates just such a physiological response, as the stinging of the skin causes blood to collect in the bottom (and simultaneously in the nearby genitals), thus accomplishing “mechanically” what caresses and kisses do psychologically;
- A properly done spanking, such as over the knee or with a cushion or other support propping up the woman’s bottom, causes the bottom to squirm from the sting, simultaneously resulting in her rubbing her clitoris on the supporting knee, pillow, etc.
- The feeling of “surrender” or submission is an important part of a woman’s sexual response, as many women need to give up control and give themselves “permission” to feel sexual. Spanking incites and reinforces such feelings;
The last two spanking principles, and some specific tips to make it really hot
- However, a woman must feel safe before she can give up control and surrender. Therefore, you must first earn her trust before attempting the game of erotic spanking. You must equate the spanking with sexual pleasure, eschewing any anger, sado-masochistic impulses or desire to humiliate her.
- The tacit understanding, no matter what the role play, should be that spanking is a form of foreplay and that orgasm is the goal of both players. Therefore, the actual spanks should be mixed with caresses and gentle rubbing of her bottom and genitalia, and other foreplay if possible.
Some hints for the first time.
The Over The Knee position is best to use .
Do not have hard objects in your front pockets and don’t squash her breasts against your thigh .
Start over the clothing and work down .
Do a little massage along the way .
Keep talking and reassuring , words like ” Great Bottom ” go down well . Tell her that she took the spanking well and how much you enjoyed doing it etc . .
If she asked to be spanked , make sure to do the job properly . The most common complaint is ” He didn’t hit hard enough ! ” .
We try to keep sex out of the spanking equation for various reasons ( see FAQ Page ) . Likewise , the sex of the participants is not regarded as a major factor in our pages . Our visitors are interested in the following approximate ” mixes ” in spanking :
55 % Male / Female
30 % Female / Male
10 % Female / Female
5 % Male / Male
This ratio is replicated in our pages , where possible . ( Some things are difficult to come by , for example , Female / Male cartoons from the 1950 ‘s . )
Many visitors are interested in more than one ” mix ” , e.g. ” SWITCHES ” who reverse roles .